
Episode 5: Words I Can't Bear to Say
By David Chen
This episode begins with everyone at the boarding house eating breakfast together with dishes that their parents sent. Samcheonpo, Haetae, and Sseuregi participate in a soccer match between different majors while Yunjin goes to cheer on her favourite group at a live show. Due to a certain food that everyone had for breakfast, the members of the boarding house all got food poisoning and later Sseuregi had to help a mother tell her kids that she was going to die. In the end, Samcheonpo apologizes to Yunjin for accusing her of bringing spoiled marinated crabs and causing the food poisoning.

Specifically, the topics of difficult words to say and the importance of maternal love stuck out the most to me during this episode. Although Sseuregi is only a medical student and not a full-fledged doctor yet, he was exposed to one of the hardest parts of being a doctor; figuring out how to tell a family that one of their loved ones will die. In this particular situation, a mother is told that she will die soon by Sseuregi’s professor, and the only family she has are her two young sons. She is forced to take on the extremely difficult task of placing a heavy burden on her kids which is something that no parent would ever want to do. In South Korea, parents know how hard it is for their children to grow up in a society where academics is heavily and continuously emphasized to be prioritized in their lives. Since the mother already knows that her kids will go through a harsh life growing up, she doesn’t want to burden them even more with the fact that they must fend for themselves once she is gone. Without this key figure in their lives, her children will likely be unable to take care of themselves and may not survive in the harsh society of South Korea. It is common for mothers in Korea to be housewives and take care of household chores such as cooking, but also ensure that their children become successful by determining their talents and remaining informed about the education system (Tilland 2016, 231). This reflects the importance of the role of mothers in Korea and how critical a loss it would be for the children.

Another example seen in this episode of difficult words to say is when Samcheonpo is forced by Haetae to apologize to Yunjin. Although this situation is significantly less extreme, it still highlights the idea that sometimes there are words that are difficult to say even when you know it is inevitable. Samcheonpo’s hesitance to apologize reflects the pride that Koreans are known for and their hate of showing vulnerability. It is hard for people to apologize even when they know they are fault because admitting that you are wrong is commonly viewed as weakness, a trait heavily emphasized in Korean culture as negative. Ultimately, holding onto pride only results in making our lives harder and I believe that we should learn as humans to let go in times of need.
Word count: 410
Discussion questions:
-
Why do you think people sometimes have trouble saying words that they must say? Give an example outside of the drama and explain.
-
Do you think pride is more emphasized in Korean culture than Western culture? Why or why not?
​
​
Bibliography:
Tilland, Bonnie. "Family Is Beautiful: The Affective Weight of Mothers-in-Law in Family Talk in South Korea." Journal of Korean Studies 21, no. 1 (2016): 213-244.